For many months/years you have been preparing for a wedding that is a kind of high, fuelled by adrenaline and endorphins and all kinds of happy-fuzzy brain chemicals.
The post weddding blues is what can happen when those chemicals wear off and reality sets back in. For some, it can be as soon as the wedding high has ended, while for others it can hit weeks later. A lucky few may not experience it at all. Everyone is different.
The Blues looks different for everyone. You might feel sad or depressed. You might cry a lot. Some people report feeling listless or no energy. When you’re in the middle of it, it can be overwhelming and completely horrible.
Not everything on this list will work for everyone. Pick out just one or two that speak to you and try them. Here’s 24 things you can do to help when you’re dropping.
Stop the Blues Remedies
Cuddle someone/something! Your partner, a friend, a stuffed toy, your pet.
Make your favourite hot drink and sip it slowly, noticing how it tastes and letting the cup warm your hands.
Eat some chocolate or whatever your favourite sweet treat is. Not enough to make you feel sick, just enough to give you those feel-good chemicals.
Cook yourself a simple, healthy meal and enjoy eating it slowly. Something with protein and vegetables.
Watch your favourite film or an episode of your favourite Netflix show. Something lighthearted is better.
Write in your journal.
Share how you’re feeling on your social media of choice. Sympathy and virtual cuddles from friends who get it can be surprisingly cathartic.
Listen to a comedy podcast or watch some stand-up. Laugh until your tummy hurts.
Curl up into bed with a good book or a magazine.
Meditate. There are thousands of free guided meditations on Youtube.
Go for a walk. Preferably somewhere out in nature, but to the shop at the end of the street and back will work in a pinch.
Sit in your garden, if you have one, or a nearby park. Fresh air is important.
Buy yourself something if you can afford to. This could be as elaborate as that dress you’ve been lusting after for months, or as simple as a fancy coffee.
Tidy up your room or workspace. I always feel better and more clear-headed when my safe spaces are neat and tidy.
Take a bath or shower. Spend as long as you like luxuriating in the hot water. Use your most decadent shower gel or that fancy bath bomb you’ve been saving.
Play loud, upbeat music. Optional extras: sing along loudly, dance around your room for the length of a song or two.
Call someone you miss. Your mum. A grandparent. Your best friend in another city. Just pick up the phone, say hi and catch up.
Create something. Whatever your creative talent is, use it. Play your instrument, bake a cake, write a page of your novel, knit a few rows of your latest project.
Take a nap. Even an hour of shut eye will help recharge you a little.
Exercise. Hit the gym, go for a run, or do some yoga. Moving your body releases tension and clears your mind.
Get your hair cut or your nails done. No drastic changes! B ut a bit of pampering can really raise your mood and make you feel good about yourself.
Just sit with the feeling. This is a mindfulness technique. Sit, feel, and think: I am feeling rotten right now because I am dropping, but I know this feeling will soon pass and I will be okay.
Do something for someone else. Whether it’s a chore that’s normally your partner’s but they’re super busy today, or getting shopping for an elderly neighbour, caring for others takes you out of your own head.